Transitions Part 1
This week, I’d like to talk a little bit about transitions. For those of you who know me, you will know that my specializations lies within dating, dating culture, relationships and couples (marriage). Like many things in this current day and age, we have a tendency of moving through life without being aware of the impacts that events may have on us and our relationships. In other words the transition between being single and dating or dating and being in a committed relationship are sometimes overlooked.
In many ways, we take these transitions for granted which in my opinion is not necessarily a good thing. Understanding that going from dating into a committed relationship is a completely different mindset for both involved. It means that you’re being removed from the dating community and that you are focusing your energy on one person for an indefinite amount of time. This one person could be in a relationship for a year, two years, or for the rest of their life.
The understanding of transitions helps us move through our lives with more ease and confidence. Not only for us as an individual but also for our relationships. For example, let’s look at a couple that is dating and the considerate of the relationship transition has not been mindfully constructed by the two lovers. For this couple, dating has been a lot of fun! They get along very well, they share laughs, and most importantly they look forward to each other’s company on a daily basis.
For Stacy, she is ready to move on in the relationship. She’s ready to call Mark her boyfriend and she’s ready to shift into the new relationship paradigm. Mark on the other hand has been enjoying the dating process with Stacy and is gone along with being called her boyfriend. He has even called her his girlfriend. However, after “dating” for eight months, the thought or discussion of moving in together, getting married, or any other major life change that might be applicable for those in a “relationship” does not coincide with Mark’s way of looking at “dating”. This would make perfect sense had their relationship still been in the dating phase. For Stacy, their relationship was long past the singles/dating title. Unfortunately, the relationship transition was never properly implemented for Mark.
For the next blog, I hope to discuss more about transitions and a little bit about how our culture has changed from accepting, acknowledging and most importantly respecting transitions within our relationships.